As men we are often befuddled about romance. Our efforts at romance are sometimes seen as bumbling which in turn causes us a lot of embarrassment. As a result, we become hesitant to foray once more into the realm of romance. This however should not be the case as we deprive ourselves of a lot of things— the opportunity to happiness, love and affection comes to mind immediately. How do we keep this from happening? In order to minimize mistakes in the romance department we have to divine what it is that women really want.
So what is it that women really want? Affection is crucial and plays a critical part in any woman’s relationship with her partner. Without affection from her man, feelings of distrust, insecurity, and finally total emotional alienation can occur which could lead to a couple separating. When we are affectionate to our wives and partners he reinforces her self esteem, encourages her to trust you and she becomes more secure in your love and affection for her.
A lot of men have trouble being affectionate and this is where the problem starts. As men we have been conditioned to suppress any outward shows of emotion. This may be advantageous in some circumstances but it definitely does not work as regards romance and your special woman. Romance is about expressing your affection, love, and gratitude to the most significant woman in your life. How then do we start overcoming this conditioning that has been engrained in us?
If we are not naturally affectionate, we have to make a conscious effort at being so. Practice is the key to overcome conditioning. We know, however that any modification in behavior does not come easy nor will it come overnight. That is why it is advisable to start small. Start practicing gestures which you are most comfortable with and start from there. Don’t give up when you have difficulty. As mentioned earlier, with more practice, the habit you are trying to make will get easier and come more naturally.
Examples of small affectionate habits you can start doing right now are complementing her on her appearance or thanking her for the things she does every day to make your day a little easier and brighter. You can also smile at your wife more often or hold her hand. A hug and a kiss before you get out of bed in the morning or before you part are also small ways you can be affectionate towards your wife or partner. Reinforce this by another hug and kiss when you get home after work.
After being used with giving small affection habits, you may also start getting more intimate. A good playtime for couples in the bedroom can get things heated. Be sure to satisfy her and yourself when you two are having sex. You can do some more daring type of sex, you can try doing some unique foreplay like, incorporating sex toys. All these can be done as long as there is a sure approval from your partner. Never force her into doing something that she does not feel comfortable of.
Your new behavior may seem, strange to her at first, but if you explain what you are trying to do she will surely give you all the support you need.
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