Question by MamaJ: Personal vibrator for young girls, what do you Moms out there think of this?
A female doctor was on Oprah a while ago talking about personal vibrators for our young daughters. I think the whole concept was to teach our daughters to self pleasure themselves so that they are aware of their body and perhaps rely on themselves to satisfy their own sexual health rather than engaging in sex at a young age. To teach our daughters feel that they don’t need another person to make them feel good. Do any of you parents think this is a good approach to sexual health for our daughters? To get them vibrators that are for younger teen, I’m talking oh, I don’t know 11-12 years old? My daughter is 7, which I know is way to young to have this conversation but I am starting to prepare for when she is older, much older.
What do you moms out there think about this and how would you go vibrating shopping with your daughter????
Serious answers only please.
Before you answer – ask yourself this question. Would you prefer your daughter to satisfy her own sexual needs or to have a boy do it for her? Vibrator or boy? Just want to prevent sex at young age and disease. Some 11-12 year old girls are having sex, so isn’t a vibrator going to help slow down sexual experience with a partner? I know it is weird but it is reality isn’t it???
Best answer:
Answer by Halebop
i dont know but if so they should advertise them to be way better than men .. as it is true in many cases !
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About John
I am all about women, men, dogs, cats, chickens, cows exploring and becoming comfortable with their sexuality, but I was under the impression that most girls that had sex when younger did so under the pressure of a guy. IF that is true, I dont see what good the vibrator is going to do.
uuhh…I wouldn’t! If she wants to masturbate, that’s fine, but that’s why God gave her fingers. I don’t even have one! TG I have boys.
I am not going to buy my daughter a vibrator.
I’m not going to tell her masturbation is bad, but it’s not like you give demonstrations like you might with shaving your legs.
If I find a vibrator when she’s a teen, I will ignore it.
It’s normal, yes, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t private.
Relying on a vibrator to give an orgasm is like men who masturbate with a tight grip.
when my girlfriend was 13, her mom pulled her aside and took her up stairs for a present that nobody else knew about.it was a personal massager.she told her to keep it in her sock drawer.they are very open about this and i think its cool instead of feeling ashamed about it.
I just commented that most kids today are lazy. This is even further proof. They cannot even masturbate without having an electronic tool to assist them.
amazing what happen to teaching your child regardless if theyy are females or males in practicing abstinance. So now parents should go out take there daughters and teach them on how to purchase a vibrator then will be a dildo, then they won’t stop there of course then they will turn to boys because now it will be more pleasing to be held after. A vibrator could only control the sexual aspect what about the emotional feelings. As the mother of five, four being teenagers I will continue to teach my kids respect! and continue to be open and honest with them at all times and making sure that they will treat there bodies with the utmost respect as well as to someone else. To be strong and wait until they are responsible and the heck with peer pressure, we are the parents, we are the ones that will always be there for our children regardless on what happens in there lives.
Absolutely not. There’s no way I would get a vibrator for my daughter, not even if she was grown. That’s way too… personal. Or icky. Or something.
Besides, a girl’s first experience with a phallus shouldn’t be one that vibrates, or even one that she can control. She’ll be setting herself up for a lifetime of disappointment when she discovers the real thing.
No I would not take my daughter vibrator shopping.
I am all for masturbation, but something about a vibrator and a 12 year old just seems wrong.
For the 2nd thing you asked: You are asking about YOUNG girls not 16 or 17 year old girls who probably think a tad more clearly. In a 12 year old mind what is the different between a fake penis and a real one? Other than the most obvious pregnancy.
man vs. vibrator, huh? so it’s finally come to this.
doesn’t masturbation come naturally anyway. why teach your child about it? i would just teach her responsibility. that it’s not right to have sex when she’s not ready to have a child yet. but to teach her to masturbate and buy her a personal massager is just like teaching her to chew her own food.
I’m 17, not a parent yet but me and my girls weren’t very intersted in sex until probably the end of 8th grade so I think 11-12 is definitely too young. I wouldn’t give a daughter one at all because I would think she’d like it then wanna try the real thing thinking that it’d be better. But if I did I’d wait until around 14 or so or whenever she starts to show interst in guys.
oh gosh, ew, ew, ew,ew, ew, ew, ew.
The thought of this makes me want to throw up.
If you go “vibrator shopping,” with your daughter, you will scar her for life, you will likely drive her away from you, and she will never use it.
No way, especially at 11/12. 12 year olds do not need to have orgasms, that’s crazy. There is no reason an 11/12 year old should even know what an orgasm is! It is disturbing to me how much young kids know about sex nowadays. My girls are in Kindergarten and First grade and after this year they will be home-schooled due to kids knowing way too much, way too soon.
Oh wonderful, another crackpot on Oprah. Seriously, when is that woman’s show going to go off the air already?
Sounds like a “wonderful” idea in theory. Too bad it probably won’t work. So far abstinence education hasn’t worked (ha) and sex ed isn’t working, either. So what’s left? Real parenting? Oh, wait a minute … *sigh*
Personally I think that if you introduce it young enough you will be broaching a subject they’re not ready for, and probably didn’t think of, until mom brought it up. Letting kids be kids must be out of fashion. When they’re ready to know those things, I”m sure they can figure out what to do without having one of these around. I can’t believe there are actually people in the medical community who think this is a good idea. What next, Playboy for 9 year old boys? Gag.
This is sick. No parent should ever get their teen aged daughter any sex toys.
Times have changed so much… I would so have gotten spanked if my mom had found me even thinking about a vibrator at age 12!
But to answer your question. I think that every girl who approaches puberty learns to play with herself, and she doesn’t need a vibrator with a guide for proper usage to do that. Giving her a vibrator would indicate that you as her mother encourages her to think about sex, and she may even feel obliged to use it at regular intervals. This would send the wrong message. And vibrators and boys is not really a choice, or is it?