Question by Check: How do I get my wife interested in sex toys?
I’m happily married, just had our first anniversary. We have a good sex life but I would like to try to use sex toys. We’ve never talked about using sex toys, and both come from very religious backgrounds so I’m a bit unsure about her reaction….
Any suggestions?
Best answer:
Answer by irishmom91562
I personally don’t go for toys to “enhance” sex, but maybe you could tell her a “hypothetical” story about a co-worker who’d like to try these with his wife, and asked you for advice. Her reaction to that should give you your answer.
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I would just discuss it with her. I mean either she’ll be for it, or against it.
Just ask her about it. If you can not Communicate your in trouble anyway. You might be surprised some of the wildest women I have been with were religious.
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There is a really simple way to solve your dilemna, I’ll give you an example. Next time you’re having sex, take both your hands and grab her wrists and pull them over her head like you would if you were gonna handcuff her but don’t actually use handcuffs. If she likes that, then mention the possibility of using real handcuffs. Little things like that help alot in determining what she likes without pissing her off by just automatically going into it.
It might be a little early to start using toys. But, if you’re going to do it, start small and work your way up. You might want to casually talk to her about it, gauge how she feels about stuff like that. She might surprise you.
I was not interested in sex toys i would drop dead if i had to buy them but my husband got them because his elevator got stuck on the first floor, and there better than nothing,, so act like it don’t work and have a few in her christmas stocking! surprise! nothing gas powered at first..
normally i would tell you to just take her to a classy adult book store and look around. but in view of the religious thing..im at a loss.
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now we can talk. religion is funny mate. it seems someone told christians that to believe in god means you cant enjoy sex. this is not true. i believe in god very much as does my wife. and we are big fans of toys. well…she is. i just get to watch. i have read the bible through and through. and i can assure you that no where does God, Christ, prophet or apostle, nor any other character there in say, ye shall not use vibrators, dildos, pocket rockets or sexy lingerie. it does however in corinthians go into some details about sexual immorality. some frigid God fearing woman might go on to say that using such things would be ” immoral sexually”. i say, who are you to tell me whats moral or immoral within the confines of mine own marriage. the bible talks about homosexuals, prostitues, infidelity and whoring. besides mate. God cares naught about how you too make love. he cares little about what you do to preseve your love. on the contrary, i think he would encourage a good strong sexual relationship with your wife so long as your not wife swapping or hosting orgies. remember he made us human. ok…now we need to figure out how to pitch this to the wife, without her thinking your and absolute tool. like i said before, the book adult book store. they do have nice clean ones ya know…DONT, take her to the local pron shop like the one in down town nashville, thats got the indoor theater and provides spanker vision…and always seems to smell like bleach. not too mention the old perv in the trench coat standing in front of the moob section…yeah, scary. this might send your wife the wrong msg about your intentions. and its alot better to be together while shopping. cause shell need you for reasurance. and youll be there to make her feel confident, secure and sexy…cause you really really REALLY want to see your wife in…well ya know! shopping on the internet for such things take something out of it..like your ashamed of it and are trying to hide it. and you dont get to see what it looks like..a 12″ dildo is quite fearsome looking to a first timer a bad first impression when taken out of the packing…if ypour in the store. shell get and better idea, as will you of what is yous and what aint. how to pop the question. ask her. tell her about what you want to see her doing, while your down giving her face (eating her) or while your playing with her. if you dont talk about your fantasies…then start. then take it from there. sy i took so long mate, i have me wife in the back groung shouting ideas at me,,,lol. word of advise..if you decide to take her too a book store, look at em before hand. that way you know which are trashy and which arent. if shes really uncomfortable…go get it yourself, wrap it up with a nice panty and bra set…shell (youll) like that.
last thing….starter should use something easy and fun…its called a pocket rocket..google it.
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Try a few. She will like them or not. Nothing you can do about it.
splurge and get one of the Japanese or German “rabbit” type of vibrator… they run about 100$ get some good rechargeable batteries and a charger.
offer to give her a good “full body” massage… “you have to be nude, your bra straps and elastics make your muscles tense” (probably a lie but it gets her layed out nude and relaxed)… then give her a good massage…. with a happy ending… start the happy ending with your fingers and then add the vibrator slowly…. and btw… while a rabbit IS a penetrator design you’ll probably want to start just using the vibrating tip on her cl*t… then proceed to more in depth massage.
and btw… you’re a married couple… and a married couple is supposed to give/take/share their sexuality and sensuality, together… that’s why it’s called “marital relations”.
Hide one in her butt while she is sleeping! When she wakes, she will be used to it since it has already been there for 8 hrs!
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Are you for real? Stop defiling yourselves.
1) The hypothetical thing. Like the first poster said, sometimes it’s the best way to get a read on things. You can say “Man, Tim at work was talking about using sex toys with his wife. It was kind of crazy, but he made it sound like they had fun. What do you think about that?” Then listen carefully to whether she sounds open about it (and if she is, move forward!).
2) You can always try buying her a gag gift, something that you can construe as being funny but also leaves open the possibility of being sexy.
3) Buy a Christian sex book that is pro-sex toys. There are quite a few out there. You can buy it under the pretense of making your sex lives hotter and strengthening your relationship and bond to God, but also subtly let her understand that there’s nothing wrong with employing some sex toys in spicing things up.
I thing you must to show to her some products of them and then she may be interested in them!