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Question by Sarah J: My husbands turns to sex toys for pleasure?
Hi,
I need your advice…..
My husband and I have been married for 5 years and we have two kids. We’ve been having a lot of problems lately.
Recently, I found out that he had visited the adult boutique and had bought a toy. I asked him what he bought and he lied and said that he bought something to show his friends. Knowing how he has always watch his budget when buying things, it just doesn’t make sense to me that he would buy something expensive just to show off. Anyway, I’ve asked for him to tell me the truth because in mind, I am so afraid that he’s cheating on me. He got really offended that I wanted to find out….so he said, “If you really want to know, the truth is that I am no longer interested in having sex with you so I bought myself a toy”. I was so shocked and hurt to hear his answers.
Is it normal for men to have toys? If he’s no longer interested in me, does that means that our marriage has come to an end? What should I do? Please help!!!!!!!!!
Best answer:
Answer by scaredofrejection
talk to a counselor and get offline
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About John
awkward
maybe hes just sticking a dildo in his pooper for kicks
normal?
If you think it is really bad, then get a divorce.
I divorced 3 years ago and it did help, I now enjoy none of the abuse that you are going thru.
Men with stone cold fish tend to make strange choices.
Not all relationships have to revolve around sex. Many asexual people I know, prefer having relationships where sex is completely out of the question. They prefer deep kissing, and just being there in an emotional state.
Talk to him about it. A good relationship comes from good communication.
I’m so sorry. That must have really hurt.
I have never heard of men needing toys for themselves…
Unless he bought it for someone else….I’m sorry.
Sounds like he’s turning gay, a victim of liberal media brainwashing
I am married myself and I also have a sex problem, but neither has replaced the other with a toy.. Sex might not be fun for him anymore if its routine, the same kind of sex every time, or if you never reach a true orgasm or act into it. From personal experience, its not fun to have sex with a log. Haha but really, make it more interesting, foreplay helps, and make him forget about his toy.
hahahaha
think this way would you rather your husband playing with himself in the bathroom or playing with the girl across the street.
He proberly still loves you as a great friend but in a effort not to cheat on you uses them toys and is happy doing so. Take part in it.
Like someone else said
Awkward.
It’s not normal for men to buy “toys”. What kinda toy are you talking about? If he is not interested in having sex with you anymore then I think either he’s cheating or wants a divorce. Either that, or maybe he’s having arousal problems that you two need to sit down and discuss.
try to get him to see a counselor, he has some real issues.
no normal flesh and blood human would rather have a toy, he is stuck in fantasy land like some 12 y.o. boy.
Ive heard its normal for any person to have sex toys but I think its a bit weird if they are sort of lieing to their partner about them. You should probably see a marriage counselor.
I have never used a toy other than my hand and from first hand experience, the only time I wasn’t interested in having sex with my wife was when I was cheating. I’m not saying he is, but it sounds like it to me. I don’t cheat anymore, but I did around the end of our 5th year.
Well on the bright side he is not confiding in another girl just a toy! But I think this is normal I’ve heard of many women who do this. It might just look awkward because it is a guy. About your marriage the only person who can answer that is him you need to ask him if your marriage is coming to an end. Good luck and I wish you the best Take care!
you to need to talk and work to gether to figure it out.
Really a serious issue. I honesty think you may have to sit down and talk about this because all marriages have problems and a lot stop having sex at some point but to still want to have sex just not with your wife or husband then there is something else going on. It’s as if he is disgusted by you or no longer attractive, you know when your in a relationship and all of a sudden the love you had for each other turns to hate or to not being able to stand each other. Could that be possible? I’ve never heard of men having toys for themselves…that alone is weird. I think talk to him ask him straight up, are you saying your no longer in love with me? Is counseling an option? Is there no option but divorce? Do you think we should go our separate ways? Don’t beat around the bush, if you guys are having problems, and not happy let it go, we are in a world that single people thrive and move on and finish the dreams they once left behind. Talk to your kids and remember sometimes staying together for the kids is not the good thing, believe me I know, I would rather my parents have gotten a divorce then supporting 21 years of them arguing and yelling at each other.
It would seriously make me wonder if he is gay.
It is not uncommon that a spouse would lose interest in the opposite spouse, actually alot of people have this problem. It usually really wouldn’t come to an end in marriage if he is seeking pleasure from sex toys (just an observation) but one thing you can really do is to find out why he lost interest in having sex with you. One thing that seemed to be a common reason is that it is the same old routine between you two but I can not really assess the actual situation. If all else fails, the best way to recover a failing marriage if it’s from lack of sex life or a cheating spouse would be a marriage counselor as that is your best chance to actually find out what is the real problem and how to fix it with the help of a marriage professional.
personally, i think men look for adventure, searching for something new.. but that doesn’t mean your marriage have to end, if you want to hold on then gain his interest back to you.. give him what he is looking for in bed.. you can both enjoy the toys he boughtÜ or try to come up with another ideas that you both could enjoy in love makingÜ
if you want to work things out, you have to have an open relationship, talk to him and be open to ideas..Ü
Frequency of sex has no direct correlation with the success of your marriage. However, it does sound like something you guys should get counseling for. It must’ve been very embarrassing for him, so that may be why he lashed out with a hurtful remark.
In a good relationship, you should be able to opening communicate about your needs, including the sexual ones. It is a concern that he doesn’t want to be intimate with you anymore, and that he feels the need to turn to something else. If it gets worse, I wouldn’t be surprised if he really did start cheating on you.
Take a look at your relationship and see what might be affecting how you feel for each other. Is there still love in your relationship? Work on that, and the sex and intimacy would naturally follow. There’s something deeper going on that you guys need to figure out and fix asap.
Is it normal for men to have toys? — There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s less common, but nothing unusual.
Has your marriage come to an end? — Only if you let it. Both of you need to work at making the situation better. Team effort. Talk to him in a calm and mature manner. Try to find what’s really behind his lack of interest in you.
Has sex become a chore? Is it too routine? Does he feel he’s not getting enough attention? If you’re open to it, nothing wrong with incorporating toys with your sexual activities with each other to spice it up a bit. But I think you really need to determine if the love is still there.
Good luck with that.
Girl all I can say is if my husband were to ever say something like that to me I would for sure boot him out the door ,Something is for sure wrong !It’s not so uncommon for couples married to have joint sex toys for fun together but yeah and what kind of toy he got will say allot to.
And why the secret?I would send him out away from you until you see or find out whats going on .Sorry I would not stay and allow this kind of behavior from any man ,I wish you all the best because I know you are hurting enough good luck in what ever you decide ,But would you say that to him there lays your answer .
The toy is nothing the fact that he said he’s no longer interested in having sex with you is hurtful and well is it true?
Do you still make love?
You need to sit him down calmly and ask him to talk to you than maybe go to counseling.
I would be happy it’s a toy and not another woman.
Sorry to read that. That’s very hurtful. I would go straight for marriage counseling to figure out what you both need and want from your relationship. If your husband point blank stated that he doesn’t want sex from you, that is an urgent situation that should be addressed immediately. If he doesn’t want to go, get yourself into counseling to talk to someone. Don’t put it off.
You definitely need to talk to a counselor in this situation b/c you are not giving enough facts for the kind of answer you are probably looking for. The best way is for you to talk to a counselor. You can put everything on the table, and let him/her help you sort it out. My situation isn’t exactly like yours, but I needed someone to talk to about numerous things I was dealing with and decided to see a counselor earlier this year. It helped me a lot.
Have you tried having a discuss on this subject with your husband? He’s the only one who can really tell you if your marriage is at an end. Maybe try sending the kids away for a weekend and sit down and spend time with him and ask him what you could do to regain his interest. Thank him for his honesty and for the fact that he wasn’t cheating on you. I hope this helps and good luck.
tough call. he needs help and he needs for you to be more kinky and less p.i.t.a
Its ok for men (and women) to use toys. however, they should compliment the couple’s sex life, not to replace it. it must have hurt a great deal to hear him say that.
that does not mean the end of your marriage. that could be many reasons y he ‘lost’ interest in u sexually. could it be that u’re spending too much time on the kids? decreased effort in making yourself attractive? put off sex because of exhaustion? men are visual creatures, before AND after marriage. it is worth the effort to kept his needs satisfied, while he satisfies yours. some men takes rejection very personally, and eventually, loses interest completely.
a marriage is worth putting in hard work. do try your best to work it out (it can be if both parties are willing. talk to him). if he still chooses out, u’ll have no regrets then. good luck.
go buy a strap on and suprise him.