I never gave using female toys like jelly vibrators a thought in my sessions in the sack with my wife until I stumbled onto her dildo when I was digging for a spare towel in her closet.
Seeing that dildo in her closet triggered certain insecurities about my ability to pleasure her, the frequency of our intimate moments, and my sexual prowess. It took me sometime to gather enough courage to ask her about it and her reaction to my question surprised me—she laughed!
Seeing my disconcert at her reaction and feeling my discomfort about her use of female toys like classic vibes she tenderly raised her hand to my face and said with love in her eyes, “I use that when I miss you, darling. Your job as a salesman takes you away from me for long periods of time and I do miss making love to you so I do the next best thing.”
Her answer reassured me a little but did not serve to completely soothe my feelings of inadequacy. She sensed this and added, “A toy like that could never replace the real thing with you. Do you want me to prove it?”
And with a twinkle in her eye, she took my hand and led me to the bedroom.
As we were both recovering and enjoying holding each other close in the afterglow, I realized some things. A mere toy could never provide her the intimacy making love with me gives. There is an emotional connection when I make love to my wife. That connection could never be made with an inanimate toy. Seeking affirmation about my epiphany I asked her about it.
With the infinite patience of a person who truly loves another she looked at me and said, “I could never hug a toy and it cannot kiss me back. I need sexual release just as you do and when you are away, the dildo serves the purpose. When you’re around I don’t even think about it.”
What I said next surprised even myself, “Could I see how you use it?”
After that night, female toys started playing a greater role in my sex life with my wife. I rediscovered how it was such a turn on for me watching my wife get aroused and orgasm as I used or manipulated the sex toys to prolong her pleasure. Needless to say our love making became more intense and we did it more often than before. I even purchased a finger vibrators for her after she saw it behind an adult novelty store window and wondered aloud how it worked. It worked wonders as far as I was concerned and I do not hear any disagreements from her either.
Female toys will never replace the real thing with someone you love. In fact they can even help already special moments with your partner get even better!



