May 23, 2012

How to Play with Anal Sex Toys Unharmed

Anal penetration can be fun but hurt you right if you are careless. Anal sex toys and vibrators usually do not come with instructions. So if you want to know how to use one, look for information online. Your initial anal encounter may not pleasing. In fact, you may feel a bit of discomfort even with narrow toys.

You want to be conscious about the size. Big dildos for your tight butthole are a bad idea. If you are a beginner, try small butt plugs or narrow anal toys. You can buy graduated anal beads as a starter because these toys start with a small bead at the tip with succeeding beads larger.

Use lubrication when inserting a toy into your anus because this is a delicate hole and its lining can easily rupture due to friction. The lubricant should depend on the kind of sex toy you are using. If you are using rubber and latex toys, do not use oil-based lubricants because they destroy them. Water-based lubes are the safest to use for any kind of sex toys.

The muscles of the anal walls have some sort of a suction effect. That is why it is not safe to use toys whose base is of the same size as the body. Did you notice why butt plugs and anal dildos have flared base? The anus is part of the digestive tract. It does not have a roof like the vagina. You can get anything too deep into the rectum that it becomes impossible to remove safely. Anal sex toys and jelly vibes have flared base prevent dangerously deep insertion.

Never insert anything into your anus if it is not specifically for anal play.

Employ patience with anal play. As mentioned earlier, you cannot stuff big toys up your butt to avoid unwanted anal injury. Also do not force anything into your anus if it is getting uncomfortable or painful. Massage the anal sphincter or the opening with lubed fingers to relax the wall muscles there.

Learn to relax and do breathing exercises. Some people get nervous during their first try, and tension gets in the way of sumptuous anal play.

Always remember that the anus is a dirty place. While you may have seen porn flicks of people licking someone’s ass, these do not mean that the butthole is a clean place. There is always fecal matter and bacteria in there. So you have to clean realistic vibrating dildos, butt plugs, or anal beads after using them in your anus. Do not place anal sex toys into vagina without cleaning them first.

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How to Use Bullet Vibrators

One of the most essential additions to bedroom sizzling encounters is bullet vibrators. These toys are small and discreet yet powerful. The small size of these miniature vibes makes them very handy. They can be stuffed in handbags or purses and be brought anywhere. Most bullet vibes and fun vibes don’t look like nasty sex toys at all. They can even disguise as lipsticks or any cosmetic products, so no undue embarrassment if anyone finds out.

Bullets are small yet incredible toys that bring about incredible sensations to the right places. They introduce a different kind of stimulation that no finger or tongue or dong can. A lady can use a bullet by herself or let her man do the favor.

The most important use of a bullet is clitoral stimulation. Clitoris is usually the left out section during intercourse. Without stimulating this part, which is very sensitive, orgasm may not be achieved. Females who fail to orgasm during sex become unhappy with their sex life and with their partners. Luckily, there are small objects that do the trick.

Bullet vibrators are only placed on top of the sensitive spot. Place one steadily on the region or make it go in circles for an awesome experience that can never be duplicated by anything else in this world. This is the real secret to a wonderful orgasm.

While it may be scandalous to bring a rabbit on your island tour, a bullet vibrator evades inspections. Most of the small sex toys can be shown to the inspecting officials with no fear of earning a reputation of a bad girl. But using bullets doesn’t make you a bad girl, especially if they please instead of kill.

There are different kinds of bullets if you don’t know. There are wireless, wired, remote, and egg bullets. There are those that can be neatly and secretly tuck in the panties where none of the officemates can see what’s happening and know why you’re keeping that grin.

Besides clitoral stimulation, they may also be used to tickle the anus and the g-spot and any other areas in the body.

Wait! These lovely bullets may not only be for girls after all. Men can get wildly titillated by placing a vibrating bullet between their shaft and sac for some great erotic experience.

Bullet vibrators are amazing products. Just don’t expect to find them in artillery shops.

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Bondage Sex Toys Advice for Couples

Couples who want to explore the BDSM adventure should use recommended bondage sex toys like vibrators. For starters, there are soft bondage stuff that do not cause harm. Yet bondage play is no risk-free business. You have to know a few things about it.

  • Don’t make restraints very tight. This isn’t torture drama, just being a bit playful. Restraints are the main ingredients of bondage, tied around wrists and ankles—areas that have veins and arteries near the skin surface. For hard restraints, those made of metal or hard plastic, loosening them a bit is important so that they can be easily removed. Accidents can happen from too tight cuffs and collars. Also do not tie any part of the body extremely tightly because this can impair proper blood flow.
  • First timers should try soft bondage sex toys. Usually these are vibe virgins, soft paddles, spankers, furs, ropes, and ticklers.
  • Always check for skin discoloration or pallor. This means the restrains are too tight and must be loosened or removed instantly.
  • Do not leave your partner unable to escape for prolonged period, especially if they are tied by the neck. If something comes up that you need to leave the room, untie them and resume your play when you return.
  • Have safety and emergency materials necessary like around. Make sure that you can remove the ropes, cuffs, collar, and any restraining device easily. If you cannot, you have a problem.
  • The dominant partner should take it real slow at first because being too enthusiastic about it can lead to accidents. Communicate with the submissive partner to make sure what you’re doing is within their tolerable limits.
  • The submissive partner should not just sit there like a rock. Instead you should react to pain and discomfort so the other can do something about it before it gets too risky.
  • Communication is important in bondage. You should set limits and agree on what you’re going to do together. Agree to put a stop to any activity that causes pain and distress. This is just plain role playing you’re doing and not some serious reality drama, so quit when you no longer think it’s safe.
  • Do not try bondage sex toys if you don’t know how to use them because you run a high risk of making hazardous mistakes. Have fun with fun vibes and be thrilled but don’t endanger yourselves.

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The Truth About G Spot

Dr. Ernst Grafenberg, an obstetrician, gave birth to a popular spot in women. It is found inside the vagina, in the ventral portion. The genitalia of females and males are sensitive parts. But in these parts are tissues more sensitive than others. In females, the clitoris and the so-called G-Spot are the most sensitive to touch and stimulation. Other women do touches their spot through the help of g spot vibes and sex toys.

During sexual intercourse, the stimulation of these areas is believed to cause a woman to arrive at a climax. But more women agree that stimulating the Grafenberg Spot causes more intense feelings and more sensational climaxes. This zone is about two to three inches deep in the anterior portion of the vagina. This location, however, varies from female to female.

Stimulating the area may be more difficult than it seems. Penile penetration may not actually touch the area sometimes. So a male may opt to insert his lubricated fingers instead. Or a better way may be through sex toys. There are devices that may be used to reach the controversial region. Realistic vibrating dildos and vibrators may well do the trick. Some vibrators are curved in a way that they may be able to touch and give some appreciable stimulation to the spot.

It is important to remember when doing insertions into the vagina that proper lubrication be done. This organ is lined with delicate tissue that may suffer from laceration if non-lubricated insertions are made. When doing insertions with the use of fingers or dildos or vibrators, these objects must be lubricated first.

Many anatomy experts believe that the counterpart of the G Spot in males is the area in the rectum near the prostate gland. In females, this extremely sensitive zone is surrounded with thick tissue which becomes engorged in blood when excited. Because the spot is engulfed in dense tissue, a sufficient penetration and stimulation may be necessary to bring noticeable sensations. In some women, however, the stimulation in the area seems to yield no change in sensations. Some do not even feel the difference. Some feel like urinating upon the stimulation of the area. Nevertheless, the G Spot is an important spot during moments of intimacy.

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How to use sex toys with a partner

So you want to take your intimate moments with your special one to the next level?   The use of sex toys and vibrators can help do this for you.  Here are some tips on how to use sex toys with your partner.

For many who have never used sex toys and fun vibes before, the idea of using these objects in their sack sessions may be daunting.  So the first step is to convince your partner that couple’s sex toys could make a spectacular time with him or her even better.  A good tactic would be to encourage his or her participation in your search for the perfect sex toy for the both of you.  Allowing him or her to participate in the selection process will allow your partner to choose a toy that will not intimidate him or her, making him or her more open to the prospect of using these toys during your quality time together.  Moreover, it will save you a whole lot of guesswork in trying to figure out what toy he or she would be most turned on by.

Another tip on how to use sex toys with a partner is to go slow.  You do want the experience to be as pleasurable for your partner as it is for you.  This is not only because of genuine affection or love for him or her but also because you do want the experience to be repeated.  It is of course common sense that a person would be more willing to repeat undergoing a pleasurable experience than a bad one.  For instance if the toy vibrates like remote vibrating and has a variable speed setting, try putting it at the lowest level first and asking him or her where he or she wants the toy placed.  If the toy both of you acquired is meant for penetration, it would be wise to engage in your regular foreplay first to put him or her at ease and to use adequate lubrication.

Make sure your partner knows that he or she should voice out any discomfort he or she feels.  And when he or she does so, stop using the toy.  On the other hand, he or she should also let you know if it feels good so that you can proceed.  If the toy is being used on you, let your partner know too, what works and what does not.

Should it be all systems go, there is nothing left but to fully immerse yourself and enjoy the experience.

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Female toys

I never gave using female toys like jelly vibrators a thought in my sessions in the sack with my wife until I stumbled onto her dildo when I was digging for a spare towel in her closet.

Seeing that dildo in her closet triggered certain insecurities about my ability to pleasure her, the frequency of our intimate moments, and my sexual prowess.  It took me sometime to gather enough courage to ask her about it and her reaction to my question surprised me—she laughed!

Seeing my disconcert at her reaction and feeling my discomfort about her use of female toys like classic vibes she tenderly raised her hand to my face and said with love in her eyes, “I use that when I miss you, darling.  Your job as a salesman takes you away from me for long periods of time and I do miss making love to you so I do the next best thing.”

Her answer reassured me a little but did not serve to completely soothe my feelings of inadequacy.  She sensed this and added, “A toy like that could never replace the real thing with you.  Do you want me to prove it?”

And with a twinkle in her eye, she took my hand and led me to the bedroom.

As we were both recovering and enjoying holding each other close in the afterglow, I realized some things.  A mere toy could never provide her the intimacy making love with me gives.  There is an emotional connection when I make love to my wife.  That connection could never be made with an inanimate toy.  Seeking affirmation about my epiphany I asked her about it.

With the infinite patience of a person who truly loves another she looked at me and said, “I could never hug a toy and it cannot kiss me back.  I need sexual release just as you do and when you are away, the dildo serves the purpose.   When you’re around I don’t even think about it.”

What I said next surprised even myself, “Could I see how you use it?”

After that night, female toys started playing a greater role in my sex life with my wife.  I rediscovered how it was such a turn on for me watching my wife get aroused and orgasm as I used or manipulated the sex toys to prolong her pleasure.  Needless to say our love making became more intense and we did it more often than before.  I even purchased a finger vibrators for her after she saw it behind an adult novelty store window and wondered aloud how it worked.  It worked wonders as far as I was concerned and I do not hear any disagreements from her either.

Female toys will never replace the real thing with someone you love.  In fact they can even help already special moments with your partner get even better!

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How to introduce your partner to extreme sex toys

Extreme sex toys and vibrators are adult novelties and gadgets which are usually used for bondage and sexual play.  Curious about trying them out but don’t quite know how to let your partner know?  Here are some tips you can follow to get you closer to making your sexual fantasies come true.

First thing you should do is to be forthright about your sexual fantasies or what you want to happen during sex with your partner.  How will you be able to try out new things if you do not tell her or him in the first place?  The secret to getting his or her consent  is how you communicate your thoughts and fantasies.  Avoid sounding like you are complaining about the quality of sex you are having with your partner.  A better angle is that you want to try out different ways to doing already great sex with him or her.

Once you have acquired his or her consent there are a few more things the both of you should agree to before you start trying out extreme sex toys and fun vibes.  For instance, sexual bondage play inevitably involves restraining your partner or being restrained.  Thus, the both of you have to agree on how you want to be restrained.  It would also be timely to agree on what activities of sexual bondage the both of you will engage in.

Another word of advice when it comes to restraints:  Make sure the restraints you use can be easily and quickly removed in case of an emergency or when your partner indicates he or she wants the activity to stop.

One other important thing the both of you have to agree upon too is that the sexual play should immediately stop the moment one of you lets the other know that he or she is uncomfortable with whatever you are doing.  Agree on a signal and stop immediately once that signal is given.

Since you or you and your partner are new to the bondage theme, you can try to use vibe virgins, it would be wise to start out slow and  simple during your first few tries at this type of sexual play.  This will also allow the both of you to “get your feet wet” and see how the both of you like it.

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How to take care of bullet vibrators

Bullet vibrators are great sex toys to have.  But in order to enjoy them for a longer period of time they have to be properly cared for.  Here are some tips on how to take care of your sex toy to make them last longer.

Essential to proper care of bullet vibrators is correct cleaning.  A sex toy which is left unclean can become a breeding ground for dangerous microorganisms which can cause illness.  Essential to correct cleaning is knowing what type of material your sex toy is made of.  Some materials do not react well with certain cleaning agents or methods of cleaning.  In order to determine what type of cleaning agent you can use it is best to consult the packaging your sex toy came in or the instruction manual.  If it is no longer possible to do this, the safest cleaning agent to use on your sex toy would be warm water and a mild antibacterial soap.

Another reason why it is important to know the materials your toy is made of has to do with the type of lubrication one should use.  As is the case with cleaning agents, some materials do not react well with compounds found in certain sex toy lubricants.  Your safest bet would be to use a water based lubricant as these have been found to be safe for use with most sex toys and fun vibes.

Bullet vibrators come in all shapes and sizes but there is one thing that is common to all of them.  They contain a small motor which allows the toy to vibrate.  When cleaning your toy, never submerge the part which contains the electric motor or battery compartment.  Water leaking into these parts can cause damage to the motor or an electrical short which can even be an electrocution hazard.  On this note, remember to take out the batteries of your toy or unplug them from the wall socket before cleaning them.

Another way to prolong the life of our bullet vibrator is proper storage.  Store the toy in a clean and dry place after you have cleaned it.  Remember to take used batteries out of the vibrators before storing them.  When used batteries are kept inside your toy for a prolonged period of time, they may leak, resulting in not only a mess but in damage to the toy.

There you have it.  Follow these tips and you will be enjoying your sex toy for more years to come.

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Advice For Women On Oral Sex

Women like men to go down. Men should do it right, but not all men have that knack. Sometimes men cannot satisfy women the way they want to be satisfied. Women do like when their dirty wishes come true.

The best ways to get things done the way you want is by telling your male partner what you want. Some women are afraid to do this. Others are a little shy. For women, if they haven’t try to do oral, they can practice this using classic vibrators. But it’s time to do some serious talking to your partner if he doesn’t please the hot spots right. The problem is that men cannot read what’s in your mind so you would have tell them what to do. While it is common that men please you using their tongues and lips (other than through osculation), sometimes they may be a bit reluctant.

If your husband or boyfriend has qualms then there are two things you can do. First, check out the privates. If it looks as though there’s a lush bush thingy going on or something, do something. Just as you won’t go down on him if his thingy is covered in wild growth of bush, chances are he won’t do to you either. So get those pubes nicely trimmed. A nice shave would also do the clean trick.

Don’t be too preoccupied with how your genitals look like. If it doesn’t look like the one’s you see in porn movies, that’s because each woman has a unique anatomy. The vulva’s appearance varies from one girl to another, just as different men do have different penile looks. If men afraid to have an oral sex with the girl, they can have an alternate way! Men can use g spot vibes to their partner to have a perfect orgasm.

Have you been thinking of buying an intimate wash because you’re worried that the sweet spots don’t smell sweet after all? Now, we cannot tell you to stop using them. But mind you, your vagina does have a natural secretion of fluids that act like a male “turn-on”. Washing your intimate zones too frequently can be not so ok after all. Stop living in the delusion that your vagina must smell like perfume. It won’t. Fact is that this hot zone is a self-maintaining organ, capable of cleaning itself most especially during arousal when it secretes lots of clear fluid. That natural odor could actually make your man go crazy over your sweet, lovely spot.

Do not hesitate to tell him to go slow or fast when you feel he should do so. Cunnilingus is actually an excellent way to stimulate the clitoris. It’s better for clitoral stimulation than intercourse is.

Don’t forget that while oral sex may be a little safer than intercourse, you should still use some protection like dental dams. This is safer like you are playing with  fun vibes. Women should not get pregnant on an oral sex. If you don’t like to use these devices, then make sure you are both healthy.

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Five Sex Toys to Check Out

Toys have never been so much fun but there are a few items worth using again and again. In fact, there are people who have become addicted to some of the best selling items on the shelves. Take note that not all best sellers look like the real thing. Some look too artificial and realistic vibes to simulate the real sensation but they are, as mentioned by users, better than the real thing.

Aneros MGX Prostate Massager is one of the top male toys in the market. Male G-spot has been a fascination since the invention of dildos. While many men think that anal stimulation is a gay thing, many others think otherwise. Prostate massager are lovely supplements during sexual play. Male orgasm has never been so explosive before this toy was invented.

How many times have we told you about the lovely thing about cock rings? Well, if this is the first time you’re learning about cock rings, they make penises stiffer for longer durations. This is not only great for guys with erection problems but are also for those who want to experience hotter and livelier sex. Well, there are better rings in the market and one of them is the Supple Vibrating Cock Ring. It has a vibe bullet or vibrating bullet that tickles the clitoris whilst you enjoy longer penetration adventure.

I wonder if dogs are being replaced by Fleshlights as man’s best friend. Some men say that most of these masturbators simulate intercourse too pleasurably that they are about to replace girls. Well, not really. Kat Young Fleshlight Girls Lotus Fleshlight is one of the best male masturbators to check out and purchase. This is one has a tight hole with smooth orifice and pleasure ridges in the inner surface to tickle your penis as you thrust deeper.

This next toy may seem as though you are forbidden to have coitus with your lover. CB-6000 Male Chastity Kit seems to become more adorable to many males this time as it tickles them all day long without anybody noticing you’re wearing one underneath your pants. How do I explain this toy? It simply teases you erotically as long as you’re wearing it. Then you culminate through real adventure once you get home.

This last toy is for women who want to experience subtle sensations inside their glorious tunnel. Oriental Ben Wa Balls are not like vibes or vibrators that get you off in minutes. This one tickles your inner senses whilst you go about your daily activities. Simply jump over your lover once you’re home.

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