Helen Fisher is an anthropologist and sex researcher who wrote a book entitled Why Him? Why Her. In
her book, she classifies people into four major types based on their personalities. She believes that while
a person has a primary personality, a secondary personality may influence the way he or she thinks and
acts. According to her, specific hormones influence the kind of personalities people display.
First, we have the EXPLORERS, who are influenced by high amounts of dopamine. Because of that, they
are impulsive, energetic, optimistic, creative, and often curious. Explorers love adventure and tend to be
attracted to other explorers. They may tend to have high incomes but may tend to end up divorced.
The next personality type according to Fisher is the BUILDER, whose dominant hormone in the body is
serotonin. They make excellent managers, and they like socialization quite much. On the other hand,
they are respectful, loyal, and meticulous. Builders like other builders too and enjoy low divorce rates,
but they seem to spend less time for intimacy.
The DIRECTORS have testosterone gushing through their veins. Hence, they are active, outspoken,
and goal-oriented. These people are realistic and systematic. These people like having sex due to the
dominance of testosterone.
The NEGOTIATORS are the opposite of the directors because they are dominated by estrogen, making
them emotionally expressive individuals. They think about the big picture and have intuitive and
imaginative minds.
I recently had a radio personality ask me, “Are you interested in anything other than sex?” I laughed because the truth of the matter is that I have numerous interests but they always find their way back to intersecting with relationships and intimacy for me. It’s like the Kevin Bacon game of 6 Degrees of Separation for me…give me a topic and I will link it back to sex in 6 or less steps.
Here’s a link about personalities.
