February 8, 2012

How to introduce your partner to extreme sex toys

Extreme sex toys and vibrators are adult novelties and gadgets which are usually used for bondage and sexual play.  Curious about trying them out but don’t quite know how to let your partner know?  Here are some tips you can follow to get you closer to making your sexual fantasies come true.

First thing you should do is to be forthright about your sexual fantasies or what you want to happen during sex with your partner.  How will you be able to try out new things if you do not tell her or him in the first place?  The secret to getting his or her consent  is how you communicate your thoughts and fantasies.  Avoid sounding like you are complaining about the quality of sex you are having with your partner.  A better angle is that you want to try out different ways to doing already great sex with him or her.

Once you have acquired his or her consent there are a few more things the both of you should agree to before you start trying out extreme sex toys and fun vibes.  For instance, sexual bondage play inevitably involves restraining your partner or being restrained.  Thus, the both of you have to agree on how you want to be restrained.  It would also be timely to agree on what activities of sexual bondage the both of you will engage in.

Another word of advice when it comes to restraints:  Make sure the restraints you use can be easily and quickly removed in case of an emergency or when your partner indicates he or she wants the activity to stop.

One other important thing the both of you have to agree upon too is that the sexual play should immediately stop the moment one of you lets the other know that he or she is uncomfortable with whatever you are doing.  Agree on a signal and stop immediately once that signal is given.

Since you or you and your partner are new to the bondage theme, you can try to use vibe virgins, it would be wise to start out slow and  simple during your first few tries at this type of sexual play.  This will also allow the both of you to “get your feet wet” and see how the both of you like it.

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How to take care of bullet vibrators

Bullet vibrators are great sex toys to have.  But in order to enjoy them for a longer period of time they have to be properly cared for.  Here are some tips on how to take care of your sex toy to make them last longer.

Essential to proper care of bullet vibrators is correct cleaning.  A sex toy which is left unclean can become a breeding ground for dangerous microorganisms which can cause illness.  Essential to correct cleaning is knowing what type of material your sex toy is made of.  Some materials do not react well with certain cleaning agents or methods of cleaning.  In order to determine what type of cleaning agent you can use it is best to consult the packaging your sex toy came in or the instruction manual.  If it is no longer possible to do this, the safest cleaning agent to use on your sex toy would be warm water and a mild antibacterial soap.

Another reason why it is important to know the materials your toy is made of has to do with the type of lubrication one should use.  As is the case with cleaning agents, some materials do not react well with compounds found in certain sex toy lubricants.  Your safest bet would be to use a water based lubricant as these have been found to be safe for use with most sex toys and fun vibes.

Bullet vibrators come in all shapes and sizes but there is one thing that is common to all of them.  They contain a small motor which allows the toy to vibrate.  When cleaning your toy, never submerge the part which contains the electric motor or battery compartment.  Water leaking into these parts can cause damage to the motor or an electrical short which can even be an electrocution hazard.  On this note, remember to take out the batteries of your toy or unplug them from the wall socket before cleaning them.

Another way to prolong the life of our bullet vibrator is proper storage.  Store the toy in a clean and dry place after you have cleaned it.  Remember to take used batteries out of the vibrators before storing them.  When used batteries are kept inside your toy for a prolonged period of time, they may leak, resulting in not only a mess but in damage to the toy.

There you have it.  Follow these tips and you will be enjoying your sex toy for more years to come.

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Enhancing Intimacy by Strengthening the PC Muscles

Most women are so conscious with the satisfaction they get during the period of having intimate affair with their partner. Sometimes it could lead to frustrations thinking that their partner is not satisfied with the performance being rendered to their partners. And sometimes couples used some alternate ways during sex like the use of fun vibes.

One problem with older women is they fear that their sweet hole is too loose to feel any pleasure at all. They are also wondering whether their partners are satisfied with them.

You could be blaming yourself. If you pity yourself that you’re no longer satisfying him in bed, worry no more.  There are a number of important things you can do.

Most couples agree that the best sex is the first. This is when partners feel every sensation and tightness. As time goes by, the vagina loses the tautness due to giving birth and frequent penetrative sex. However, there are ways to revisit the kind of sensation you felt when you first felt the mighty thrust into your vagina. When you’re no longer feeling the tightness, you also lose a lot of sensation and so does your male partner.

Exercising your PC muscles is one way to train your vaginal walls to tighten during penetration. Lots of women might have not yet heard of these muscles. They are found in the pelvic floor and you notice their function when you try to hold you pee. Thus vaginal wall exercise involves attempting to squeeze your PC muscles as if you were holding back your pee.

You can try this exercise by inserting one or two lubed fingers in your vagina or inserting a jelly vibes and attempting to squeeze your vaginal walls around your fingers. When you feel the vaginal walls on your fingers, you’ve done it right. Of course, we do not expect you to become masters of this craft right away. It takes some time.

You can also invest in experiencing subtle sensations all over the day and practicing your kegel muscles by investing on Ben Wa Balls. These naughty balls may be lubed well enough, inserted in your vagina and be left there while you get to work. This way you train your muscles to tighten up as you attempt to hold the balls in place. Just make sure you use generous amount of lube and you reapply lube, especially when you’re about to get them off.

You can also buy the tightening creams to make your private region as tight as you once knew. Your partner would definitely be amazed.

Ben Wa Balls, Kegel exercisers, sex toys, vibrators and tightening creams are all available here on Lovehoney.

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Advice For Women On Oral Sex

Women like men to go down. Men should do it right, but not all men have that knack. Sometimes men cannot satisfy women the way they want to be satisfied. Women do like when their dirty wishes come true.

The best ways to get things done the way you want is by telling your male partner what you want. Some women are afraid to do this. Others are a little shy. For women, if they haven’t try to do oral, they can practice this using classic vibrators. But it’s time to do some serious talking to your partner if he doesn’t please the hot spots right. The problem is that men cannot read what’s in your mind so you would have tell them what to do. While it is common that men please you using their tongues and lips (other than through osculation), sometimes they may be a bit reluctant.

If your husband or boyfriend has qualms then there are two things you can do. First, check out the privates. If it looks as though there’s a lush bush thingy going on or something, do something. Just as you won’t go down on him if his thingy is covered in wild growth of bush, chances are he won’t do to you either. So get those pubes nicely trimmed. A nice shave would also do the clean trick.

Don’t be too preoccupied with how your genitals look like. If it doesn’t look like the one’s you see in porn movies, that’s because each woman has a unique anatomy. The vulva’s appearance varies from one girl to another, just as different men do have different penile looks. If men afraid to have an oral sex with the girl, they can have an alternate way! Men can use g spot vibes to their partner to have a perfect orgasm.

Have you been thinking of buying an intimate wash because you’re worried that the sweet spots don’t smell sweet after all? Now, we cannot tell you to stop using them. But mind you, your vagina does have a natural secretion of fluids that act like a male “turn-on”. Washing your intimate zones too frequently can be not so ok after all. Stop living in the delusion that your vagina must smell like perfume. It won’t. Fact is that this hot zone is a self-maintaining organ, capable of cleaning itself most especially during arousal when it secretes lots of clear fluid. That natural odor could actually make your man go crazy over your sweet, lovely spot.

Do not hesitate to tell him to go slow or fast when you feel he should do so. Cunnilingus is actually an excellent way to stimulate the clitoris. It’s better for clitoral stimulation than intercourse is.

Don’t forget that while oral sex may be a little safer than intercourse, you should still use some protection like dental dams. This is safer like you are playing with  fun vibes. Women should not get pregnant on an oral sex. If you don’t like to use these devices, then make sure you are both healthy.

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