May 22, 2012

Simple Bondage Tricks

Break the monotonous lovemaking routine by doing bondage and you will surely see the difference it can make. Bondage is an ideal way to experiment with lots of thrills and excitement you would not get from typical bedtime adventure with the use of bondage toys. However, the tricks you are to do depend on whether you are adventurous or the reserve type of couple.

bondage couple

bondage couple

Bond and daring couples may try lots of movements. A simple way to try this kind of bondage is to have your woman on her hands and on her knees. Tie her wrists and ankles. The next thing is penetration act from behind her. Expectedly she will struggle and squirm and may even push back against you creating superb sensations.

For women who like to try some adventurous bondage fun with their men, try this. Tie your lover up and position yourself with your legs on both sides of him. Hold the base of his penis with one hand, and then use the other hand to give him a rapid hand job for three seconds, then stop for one, and then repeat the process until he is about to come. Finish the drama when he is near by climbing on top.

If you are introducing bondage to your lover who is unsure about the feeling of being tied, have them experience a bit of practice by holding both their wrists together above their heads during your typical sexual act or tell them to keep their hands at the backs.

For starters, it is a good idea to start with less fearsome objects, such as restraints. Start with ties and gentle spankers. You may also use harmless things at home like stockings or shawls. Being tied up may make the other feel a little jumpy during the first try. So communicate with your partner about bondage especially because some pain and discomfort are inevitable at times.

Ensure bondage safety by checking the ties used do not tighten more as the person struggles. Bondage is not a torture game. So make sure your knots are not too taut. Check this by inserting a finger before knots are done. Have keys for handcuffs and scissors for ties at hand for emergency purposes. In using any gag or collar bondage toy make sure your partner can breathe.

These two are very important. Do not leave anybody tied up in a room alone. Never hang your lover using ties around wrists and ankles, let alone around their necks! And in addition, do not forget to try on different bondage roles.

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How to Get More Sex from your Partner

Do you want to know how you can get more sex from your partner? If you’re in a relationship with someone and you don’t feel you’re getting as much sex as you want, it can be very frustrating. Men and women both can go through this type of experience but how you handle it can have a big impact on your relationship and your overall health.

You shouldn’t cheat on your partner or seek attention elsewhere if you’re not getting enough sex at home. This is only going to complicate the matter and create other problems for you all. You also shouldn’t just ignore the problem or beat yourself up because you feel you’re being selfish. There are some things you can do to handle a problem like this.

Here are some tips:

  • Don’t nag- nagging your partner about the sex you’re not getting will only put more pressure on them to perform. It can make the problem worse.
  • Take the initiative- sometimes sex slows because one partner feels like they have to do all of the work to make it happen.
  • Introduce foreplay- maybe you need a little more foreplay in your relationship to help your partner get in the mood.
  • Try something different- when’s the last time you had an exciting tryst someplace adventurous? This could be enough to spark the fires once again.
  • Deal with any unresolved relationship problems- problems in the relationship will spill over into the bedroom. These issues need to be addressed before your sex life can return to how it once was.
  • Be sexy- When you are sexy, inside and out, as a person, it will make your partner want you more. Have you been letting yourself go now that you’ve gotten comfortable with one another? This doesn’t just mean in the physical department but it also refers to how you act towards and around one another.
  • Be romantic- Romance often dwindles when a couple has been together for some time. This can hurt the sex drive of one or both partners. When you bring back the romance it can help get your partner in the mood for more sex.

Now that you have these tips for getting more sex from your partner, you can put them into effect in your sex life. Sometimes all it takes is one person taking more initiative or changing certain things about themselves to make a huge difference in the sex life of the couple.

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The Role of Foreplay

The role of foreplay is a very important one in sex, especially in a relationship. When you are with someone new, often the excitement of being with this person is enough to get you both heated and in the mood. However, as time goes on, you have to focus on things to make your sexual relationship as exciting as it once was.

The role of Foreplay

The role of Foreplay

Then there are some people who just can’t get into the moment without proper foreplay, no matter what the situation. Foreplay isn’t just something you have to do to get yourself or your partner in the mood for the big act. It should be a romantic, erotic experience for both of you.

Couples can enjoy being close to one another, touching, kissing and caressing and just spending this special time together. It can bring you closer as a couple and help you feel more open with one another in other areas of your life as well.

There are many tips and hints out there regarding foreplay and how it should be done but there is no magic list that works for everyone. You can try different sex toys for couples and experiment and make up some things on your own all to see what’s working for you and what isn’t. Part of the fun of foreplay can be that you’re learning and experiencing new things together.

Foreplay can include anything from cuddling with a good movie to sensual massage, role-playing, sex toys or adult videos and more. If you’ve been with someone for a long time, you may alter how  you do foreplay to keep things interesting and fresh in the sex relationship.

Now that you know more about the role of foreplay, it’s time to look for some new and interesting ways you can improve the foreplay in your relationship. One good first step might be to sit down and talk with your partner about what you both want and like.

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The G-spot

What do you know about the G-spot? Have you heard that this is a fantastic place to stimulate both for men and women during sex? If you’re heard about the G-spot but you don’t know what it’s all about or how to find it to stimulate it, then we have the answers for you.

When it comes to the G-spot, the first step is to know if you are talking about for a man or a woman. Both have them but they are located in different places. Well actually in the case of men it is referred to as the P-Spot. For women, the G-spot can be found best when she is on her back with hips slightly elevated. You can try propping a pillow under her to help with this.

Always use a lubricated finger for comfort and, palm side up, enter the vaginal cavity. Feel for a ribbed area just above where your finger enters the vagina and this is the G-spot. This is not actually a “spot” but instead more of a zone but once you find it on your woman, you will be able to find it more easily again and again.

Try stroking and stimulating with different motions because every woman is not the same in what she likes. Most ladies enjoy it when you pull the fingers upwards and towards you in a “come here” type action. Also try clockwise and counterclockwise movements or try alternating different motions to see what she likes best. As her what she prefers. Don’t try to just assume she’s enjoying it your way. This can lead to one of the most powerful orgasms she has ever had.

There are also certain sex positions you can try that allow the penis to stimulate the G-spot for full arousal during intercourse. The G-spot in women has long been known as a great source of erotic pleasure but men have a P-spot and this can be just as pleasurable to stimulate.

The man’s G-spot has a biological function as well as a sexual one. It’s also known as the prostate gland and it is used to create sperm. The G-spot on a man is actually considered easier to find but if it’s your first time for both of you, it’s important to go slow and use a lot of lube. It will help if your man is already somewhat aroused.

Insert a lubricated finger into the rectum about an inch or so then curl your finger upwards and towards the belly button and you should find the G-spot. Be prepared that some men can orgasm just from the sensation of pressure here.

There are also great sex toys that allow you to stimulate the G-spot. When choosing them, again, be sure you select for a man or a woman. Have fun!

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The Art of Masturbation

The Art Of Masturbation

The Art Of Masturbation

When it comes to the art of masturbation, there are many things to learn. There’s no one else who can tell you exactly what to do to masturbate so that it feels good to you. This is something a person must learn on their own over time. Your tastes for what you enjoy can also change over time.

This is often why it is called the art of masturbation.

However, there are no real handbooks that we are given for masturbating correctly. We are typically left to figure it out on our own and not only do some people make mistakes but they also spend a great deal of time trying to figure out what works best for them.

When you learn some basics upfront, it can make it a lot easier for you to discover your own art of masturbation. As a first step, you need to become acquainted with your parts. Maybe it sounds silly but this is something many people overlook. It’s especially important for women.

Use a handheld mirror and proper lighting and spend some time exploring and seeing what you really look like. Then take some time touching different parts of your body to see what feels good and what feels even better.

Once you have mastered the art of masturbating with just your hands and body, you might be ready to explore with sex toys and tools. Be sure to always use proper safety and never put anything in your body that is not intended for such uses. Not only is it dangerous but a trip to the ER for something like this can be very embarrassing.

When you learn to masturbate successfully, it can also help you in couple’s sex as you will know what feels good and what doesn’t. You’ll be able to tell your partner about your “hot spots” and what you love the most. Some couples even find it fun and exciting to masturbate together sometimes.

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5 Mistakes Women Make During Sex

5 Mistakes Women Make  During Sex

5 Mistakes Women Make During Sex

Women sometimes make mistakes during sex that not only can be a turnoff for their partners but can also hinder the pleasure they could be having during this experience. When you learn about these common mistakes, you can then identify if you’re doing them and learn how to stop them.

Here are some common mistakes women make during sex:

  1. Worrying about how you look- no matter what you think, your guy isn’t thinking about your imperfections while you’re making love. He’s not checking to see if your hair is messed up or your makeup is smeared, either. In fact, most guys like it when you get that “sexed up” look with the tousled hair. He’s not going to be staring at your cellulite or that little extra belly flab you’re so concerned about. In fact, being too self-conscious can actually be a turn off for your man so relax and just enjoy the fun.
  2. Talking too much- some talking during sex is really helpful. It helps you to communicate what you like and don’t like. However, too much talking during sex is distracting from the act and can even kill the mood. Especially avoid talking about things that have nothing to do with what you’re doing at the moment.
  3. Not taking the initiative- men want to feel that they are special, wanted and appreciated. They don’t want to feel like they have to do all the work in the bedroom. It’s nice for the woman to take the lead sometimes in contact, intimacy and sex.
  4. Thinking men are always in the mood-some women make the mistake of thinking that all men are always in the mood. Then if their man just isn’t feeling up to it one night, they take it personally. Men are allowed to have times when they’re just not in the mood and it typically has nothing to do with you.
  5. Not telling him what you want- some women expect that their man will just read their mind and instantly know what they want in the bedroom. But it doesn’t happen this way. You can’t expect him to know what feels good (and what doesn’t) if you don’t tell him.

Now that you know about these five mistakes women make during sex, take a look at yourself. Be honest and see if you are guilty of any of these. If you are, it’s time to start taking the steps to improve it.

Your partner will thank you and you will get more pleasure, too!

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Stag Parties and Strippers

Stag Parties Strippers

Stag Parties Strippers

 

Tradition has it – a stag party for the man on the last day of being a bachelor with a stripper. Should the fiancée be concerned?

Yes, I think girls who are about to get married should be concerned. But that does not mean prohibiting your fiancé from going to the party. One important reason is the party is supposed to be for him. That is to celebrate the last day that he is a bachelor. You have to trust your man enough for this.

This is to say that since you have agreed to be married then that only shows that you have some confident level of trust towards him. If you say that he should not go or that they should never have a stripper, that would mean to him as if you do not trust him much. That would be an issue between the two of you.

Trust is an important matter between couples and between those who are moving towards marriage. Some actually believe it is the core of the relationship and without which there is no point in holding on to it.

You can at least be honest to him by saying that you are worried about what might happen at the party, or that you do not suppose it is a good idea to have a stripper at the party. There is nothing wrong with telling him what you feel. This is to remind him that he has to be on guard; to remind him that you are concerned about him and about how you feel about him.

Assure him you can strip for him after the wedding, and you can certainly strip in front of him everyday!

For the men out there, there is nothing wrong with going to a stag party and seeing a hot stripper in front of you. You have seen one at least once before.

And let’s be honest about that. Be reminded, however, that you are in party with a naked girl dancing around. You and your friends are having fun. Nothing should happen besides that. You can hold back your urges until after the wedding. That’s fine. That’s not spoiling the fun.

That’s being a responsible adult. Better play with sex dolls or masturbators than risk hurting your partners. For more choices you can search for some sex toys for beginners.

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Losing the Sensation?

Sexually Frustrated

Sexually Frustrated

Most girls agree that the first few tries of sex are probably the best because it is during those times when they feel it tighter and more sensuous. But what happens after a while? We sorted emails from girls who say that they don’t feel the sensations anymore. This is a little baffling because human vagina is designed to feel sensations. That’s how every woman feels the delights of sex, and if you don’t experience those delights, sex is just a bore and a tiresome waste of time.

One reason there is not much sensation is probably the penile size of your partner. When we speak of penile size, we mean thickness and length. The thicker the penis, the tighter it feels. The longer the penis, the deeper it gets. According to experts, size does not matter, but as a matter of fact size does matter, nonetheless it is not the only factor that matters. You can be the well-endowed man, who is a complete bedtime bore.

Or you may be the less endowed man who performs ecstatically. Small penises may feel a little loose inside. But there may be other problems.

When women engage sex often, after sometime, the vagina loses tautness as its walls become loose and the muscles no longer grip your partner’s phallus. This results to loss of sensation and pleasure during intercourse. There are also instances when the vagina loses sensation after repeated thrust and drag action. The first penetration is the most sensuous. After several push and pull actions, men and women lose the vital pleasure.

There is no point, however, describing the problem and not looking for solutions when there are a lot. Exploring different position is one. Not only does changing position create new sensations, it also does bring more fun to both of you. Avoid positioning your legs too wide.

Invest in exercising your pelvic floor muscles. This way you can control tightening your vaginal muscles through the so-called Kegel exercises. You can do this by imitating the muscular control of your urination. This exercise can be an advantage to both partners. Ben Wa balls serve the purpose of strengthening your PC muscles while delivering subtle pleasure. Check out adult toy stores for them.

There are now available adult sex toys in the market that can also help you feel that sensation you are looking for. Dildos are on of the most popular sex toy that can aid you with these problem, and may I recommend the glass dildo. Glass dildos may cost a little bit higher than the other types, but it is definitely a guaranteed satisfaction on your part.

You may also invest in tightening lubes and creams available in the market to make you feel like a virgin once and again.

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5 Mistakes Men Make During Sex

Mistakes Men Make in Bed

Mistakes Men Make in Bed

While you may think you know everything there is to know about sex, the truth is that many men who think they are experts actually make some simple and avoidable mistakes with their women during sex. It can be difficult for men to know what a woman really wants and the inspiration they often take from adult videos is nothing like what most women really want in the bedroom.

5 common mistakes men make during sex so that you can be sure to avoid them yourself:

1. Thinking you know what she wants- many men make this mistake of thinking they know what their woman wants or doing what they’ve done with other women. Then they don’t understand why this doesn’t work out for them. Every woman is different and you need to take time to learn what she likes and doesn’t like instead of making assumptions.

  1. 2. Thinking sex feels the same for men and women- she’s not feeling what you feel during sex, at least not in the same way. For most women, the inside of the vagina is less sensitive than the outer parts. While insertion will feel incredible for the man, usually the woman needs more than this to feel the same sensations. Also, deep thrusting may not feel so good for the woman, especially if the penis is long.
  2. 3. Being too quiet during sex- While talking during sex comes more easily for some people than others, being completely silent can  make it hard for your partner to know what you like and don’t like. You don’t want to turn into a chatterbox but let her know when she’s doing it right.

4. You think you know about her anatomy- Many men think they understand the sexual parts of a woman and how they work but they really don’t. What feels good to one woman might be too strong or rough for another. Some like direct contact while it may be excruciating for another. Take time to learn what works for her.

5. You think she isn’t turned on if she isn’t wet- There are many different things which can affect how much natural lubrication a woman has. Some women will seem wet when they are not completely turned on or ready yet and others can be fired up and ready to go and not have enough natural lubrication. Stress, medication and hormones can all affect this.

Now that you know these five mistakes men make during sex, take a look at your love life and sex life.

Can you be called guilty of any of these?

What can you do to prevent it?

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What is a Cock Ring For?

Cock Ring

Cock Ring

If you’ve considered using a cock ring but you have no idea what it’s for, you’re not alone. Many men hear the idea of a cock ring and they’re either interested in learning more or a bit shocked or put off by it since they don’t understand it. This is why it can be so useful to learn a bit about it first.

The cock ring is meant to help make an erect penis harder and bigger and also to help it remain this way for a longer amount of time. This can be used to both heighten and delay orgasm. This works by restricting the blood flow and keeping the blood in the shaft of the penis.

The idea is that when the man wearing it does ejaculate, it will be more intense since it took longer to reach orgasm and also because the penis was filled with additional blood. Many men believe it to be the best sexual experience they have had.

Some men use a cock ring with partners and by themselves. You can use it during masturbation, play or sexual intercourse as a couple. There are many different types of cock rings out there so if you’re just starting out, it’s important to learn about them and how to choose the right one.

Adjustable ones are suggested for men using a cock ring for the first time and you might want to use it solo before bringing it into couple’s sex. This is just to make sure you are comfortable with it and how it works so you don’t have to fumble with it in the heat of the moment.

You should never try to substitute or makeshift a cock ring by using rubber bands, binder clips or other vices. This is very dangerous and can cause too much constriction on the penis. Now that you know what a cock ring is for, maybe you’ll want to give it a try for yourself and see how intense your orgasm can be.

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